We are told that sex and love are part of the same instinct; I disagree. Love is a pleasant sensation of comfort we feel when we’re close to a special person. LIVRO EM DESTAQUE. DR. FLÁVIO NO YOUTUBE. Assine o FEED do canal do Dr. Flávio no Youtube e mantenha-se atualizado conforme novos vídeos são. As for his theoretic work, in he presented studies about sex therapy; his first and critically acclaimed book, published in , was about sex, love, and.

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Love and freedom encounter another peculiar barrier, which is cultural conditioning. We are told that sex and love are part of the same instinct; I disagree. Very few couples live well together and have a relationship conducive to emotional and intellectual growth. But exactly because some couples do live happily together, we should do our best gikvate be a part of this exclusive club.

Many of us fear being alone, for reasons that can be somewhat inconsistent. This fear is sometimes associated with the pain we feel right after a breakup and, of course, losing the comfort that comes from a relationship, even a problematic one, is difficult. Which is the best way to be fulfilled and happy? I have been writing about the fear of happiness since the late s, when an odd, unexpected idea came to my mind: I suddenly realized that when people fall in love they start living in a constant state of alert—of panic, even—as if they expected a tragedy to befall them at any moment.


On Being Alone…

Children experience a major developmental leap in their second year: Up to that point, they had been happiest being held by their mothers, in a peace and comfort such as they lost at birth, feeling for their mothers what we call love. Why do we fall in love with a specific person?

However, a few observations might help us make fewer mistakes. We get involved with someone else because we feel incomplete.

Fear of Happiness

Theoretically, lastingly romantic marriages should be more common than those based on an exuberant sex life. SinceI have been trying to understand the components lovros determine how romantic partners are chosen.

I am always surprised when I hear people repeat, with utter conviction, well-known sentences that are regarded as truth, even though not much thought is given to them.

These are beliefs, inherited gkovate of view. Friendship is a strong emotional bond between two people, which happens for reasons that are not always present in romantic attachments.


When two people enjoy how the other acts, laughs and thinks, they connect fairly fast; in this regard, friendship is similar to love. While still in-utero, our brain develops in an environment filled with comfort, peace and harmony.

We are living in paradise—and birth means being expelled.

happiness | Dr. Flávio Gikovate

From them on, we experience what are probably the worst days of our life: I have been describing love as the feeling we have for a clavio person next to whom we feel peace, harmony and comfort. As adults, our experiences reproduce what we felt in the earliest stages of our lives with our mothers: Love is my subject for this piece, and in this case, people are even less disposed to see its uglier side.

Nobody likes to admit they feel envy, much less of someone who is close gikovxte them. Envy comes from our habit of comparing ourselves to others; we feel diminished when they have more than we do.

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